They walk together, I walk alone!

about the photo

I walk in the snow, alone, saw this love partner walk together, so lovely, so nice. took two, blog one!

place taken

Taoranting Park, Beijing, China.

31-Oct-2006

Anonymous says

There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way.

- Anonymous

Change your perspective and change your life 改变你的生活

by A.K. BoylePublished: 10/31/2006

Let's consider the Wright brothers for a moment. Not particularly good students, they had an interest in things mechanical and a few peculiar hobbies. At some point, they decided they could design a machine that could fly, which if you think about it, was a pretty crazy idea. If Wilbur and Orville thought the way most of us think, they'd have been discouraged by the improbability of success, the throngs of skeptics and the four years of trial and error before they finally achieved that first twelve-second flight. They'd have had to be almost delusional in their stubborn faith in their abilities to ignore the many compelling arguments against their attempts. But ignore them they did, and as modern-day travelers of the world, we know their optimism changed the course of history.

Those who achieve "great" things have varied talents, backgrounds and beliefs. They come from different times, different cultures and different families. But almost unanimously, they have one thing in common -- a dogged optimism and determination to believe in themselves despite the odds. Not that positive thinking is just about achieving greatness. There are thousands of people whose names we've never heard who have made an impact on the world, on themselves and on those they love simply because they believed they could. And people who are happy rarely have better lives than those who are unhappy -- they have better outlooks. Negativity isn't just a matter of perspective. How we see the world determines what we make of it. If you woke up feeling like what you do today won't matter -- that it won't be relative to the grand scheme of your life -- it won't. You'll follow the same patterns, see the same limitations and be blind to the opportunities outside your expectations. You'll expect the same shortcomings in others, and they'll live down to your expectations, too.

So how do you change how you think? Most of us would like to be a little more positive, but so often our attempts end in the same complaints and doubts, leaving us feeling bad at our failure to not feel bad! Realistically, telling yourself to look on the bright side isn't a particularly powerful cure. A lifetime of reinforcing guilt, pessimism and hopelessness isn't going to dissipate in a day. It's actually easier to change your actions than it is to change your thinking, so begin by identifying a positive course of action in each new setback. Whether or not you always take it, you'll slowly be training yourself to attack problems with the measured delusion that brings happiness, clarity and success to so many.

Project the positive

You may think you're hiding it well, but your pessimism and insecurity is constantly revealing itself to others. Negativity affects us in very perceptible ways: it radiates in our posture, our word choice, the conversations we begin and those we avoid. When you do make a mental shift toward affirming yourself and trusting that you can make the best of any situation, it'll show. In the meantime, try working from the outside in. Subtle adjustments in your body language can help change your image and your perspective.

Accept doubt. Then reject it!

Doubt isn't going anywhere. It's human nature and it's necessary to making discriminating choices. In fact, those who claim to be completely fearless aren't optimistic; they're self deceptive. Without doubt, what's to keep us from believing we can undertake a marathon after knee surgery or following each new cause that comes our way? Doubt helps us make practical decisions, but it also makes us ordinary. The trick is deciding when our reservations are founded (i.e. jumping off this cliff is likely to result in disaster), and when they represent odds that can be overcome (Why waste time on a novel I could never get published?). Listen to your doubts, and weigh them carefully. When you know your discomfort is founded in insecurity, dismiss it. When the risk is worth taking, go for it. Doubt is useful and healthy, but if you avoid everything you're not sure you can do, your limits will never budge from where they are today.

Turn obstacles into opportunities.

One of the most often observed traits in people who have been exceptionally successful in business is the ability to see a setback as an opportunity in disguise. Even the best laid plans are sure to go awry. The solution isn't to better planning -- it's being adaptable. Expect opposition and be prepared to come up with alternatives. If you see versatility as lack of resolve and alternative solutions as failures, you've doomed yourself before begun. Life is complex and chaotic, so it stands to reason that no plan, no matter how foolproof, will work out exactly as planned. Look at your plans as rough outlines that will only be fully realized when they're fleshed out with the caprices of reality. So your boss wants to transfer you to a department outside your expertise. Is there more room for advancement? A chance to learn a new skill? Does this put you in a better position to bargain for something you want? Arguments can make relationships stronger; challenges help you find strength; obstacles force you to consider strategies that would have otherwise gone unnoticed. The next time you feel like something has gotten in your way, don't give up; it could be the perfect opportunity you didn't know you were looking for.

Talk to yourself

It's only fair. When we do something careless or fall short of our expectations for ourselves, most of us give ourselves a subconscious reminder that we're stupid, unlikable or thoughtless. As you train yourself to turn mistakes into opportunities, try to balance all those negatives with conscious daily reminders of how capable, adaptable, kind and wise you've become. The more a thought recurs, the more firmly it is entrenched in the physical composition of the human brain, where it informs future choices. Choose to repeat positive, affirming thoughts and you'll literally change the shape of your personality!

Vote mE!

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A Different Kind of Love Spell
How to open your heart to love
by Lisa WesemanPublished: 10/24/2006 From http://www.californiapsychics.com

You may have given up on the idea of putting a magic spell on your crush to make him fall in love with you. But what if you used a love spell in reverse - and worked some magic on yourself?

Here are a few spells you can put on yourself to take control of your life and open your heart to love.

"Live boldly, beyond fear"

The best things in life (and love) require that you take risks. Sometimes you're so afraid to take chances that you miss out on beautiful opportunities.

Courage isn't living without fear, but living despite fear. So don't waste your time trying to live without fear - instead, put a spell on yourself to live in spite of fear.

When you feel yourself afraid to make a move, transform your fear into energy. Take one small, bold step after another and you'll soon be living an adventurous life that is bound to bring love to your heart.

"See others through the eyes of my heart"

If you're focused on looking for your perfect mate, you may not even realize what you're overlooking. This spell reminds you that love does not always appear where we expect it to.

By seeing others with the eyes of your heart, you'll be forced to let go of the way you usually judge others. Things that were once your focus -- appearance, money, race, age, religion, occupation - will begin to drop away. You'll notice people you once considered off-limits, and to your surprise, may even realize you're attracted to them. Opening your eyes is one step closer to opening your heart.

"Love myself as I want others to love me"

In your search for love, you often overlook the one person who can provide you with a never-ending supply of it: yourself. You spend so much time trying to attract and keep a mate that you forget that love is a force that begins within yourself.

Love requires a great deal of understanding, so it's impossible to allow someone else to love you if you don't know how to love yourself. Be kinder to yourself. Care for your physical and emotional needs. Relax. Only after you've learned to love yourself can you teach someone else how to best love you.

"Let love enter as it exits"

At the end of the day, the best way to get love is to give love. If you want to open your heart to receiving love, put a spell on yourself to first open your heart to giving love. Let love flow, not just to your romantic crushes, but to everyone around you - family, friends and strangers.

Find ways to be more kind and giving in all aspects of life. If you have a difference of opinion, give the other person the benefit of the doubt. If someone hurts you, let them know and forgive them. Strive to bring more love to those around you and you'll find that more love comes to you.

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Life chaper I

what I get after a period fighting?
as people says, I get what I want! So I put all I get on a white sheet, look at them carefully, I got a little bean, a broken jar and some clay...so i ask myself why? why i got these? I searched my soul for the reason, a strong voice telling, boy, that because what you want is all about.

People usually get what they want, if you want to done perfect then you can, if you want to cheat yourself then you get, and if you want to run away, you will running.
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what you want then you will fight and get what you want, and it will reflect the way you thinking for the next and affect the way you making a choice for the next step, soonly, it will beome your experience. So, I told myself never play yourself and others, never do cheating, don't run instead of stay and fight! You can be pushed back but not means you are back, you may be beat down but that not means you are be beaten, but if you run first, then you start running, and the second time, you will running easily, the third time, problems seems stronger than ever, and running seems the best way for you, forth time, you admit you are weak, fifth, you alow yourself running.......then, you become no choice but run!

what should do
get yourself fresh, get foods, get rest, get activises, you've been told yourself in dangerous, and you, only you can become the hero who save yourself. calm now is what the heart needed, go to a park, or walking around lake, then talking to yourself, tell him, I want to be good, I want happy, I want to be successed, but kindly, patiently. get yourself listen to your inner voice, let him to be your guide, let him happy, let him growing.

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Healing A Broken Heart
Four essentials for those suffering from heartbreak

by A.K. Boyle
Published: 09/21/2006

It's hard to say if there are more songs, poems and movies written about the ecstasy of falling in love… or the agony of breaking up. No one relishes nursing a broken heart back to health, but it's something everyone who's ever loved will have to do at some point. And while I can't say it gets any easier, there are a few measures you can take to help make the process of moving on move along.

Time (but not too much time)
First of all, acknowledge that what you are going through is hard. When you're in love, your body develops a chemical addiction to the other person, and the withdrawal is both painful and necessary. Give yourself permission to grieve. However, if you allow yourself to dwell on the difficulty of the break-up, you just replace one addiction with another, this one much less enjoyable. Make a serious effort to involve yourself in projects and activities, and immerse yourself in other people. Talk to your friends about the break-up, but talk to them about other things, too. Even if you don't want to, forcing yourself to get out and concentrate on other things will get you on the right track to feeling like yourself again.

Letting go
You will never get over him if you let yourself daydream about getting back together. Delete him from your cell phone, and don't even think about clicking on his myspace profile. It's a good idea to get rid of everything that reminds you of him to help yourself realize that that phase in your life is over. Depending on the length and closeness of the relationship, some people find that moving helps them make a clean break and a new start. If that isn't an option, rearrange the furniture, redecorate your walls -- anything you can do to symbolize moving on will help you make the transition. It's time to start a new era, with new memories and new possibilities.

Getting it out
Relationships leave trails of unresolved issues, questions and feelings their wake. But it isn't always possible to talk to achieve closure with the other person. Nonetheless, it's important that you express what you think and feel; working through those questions is a big part of leaving them behind you. Put them on paper. It doesn't matter if it's in a journal or a letter, but sometimes addressing your thoughts to your ex can help you achieve more cathartic value. After you've spent all of your anger, confusion or guilt, look at what you've written. If after you've exhausted your pen or keyboard you still feel like it's something you still really need him to know, consider sending it. First, edit any accusations or sections that are too emotionally charged -- you don't want to send anything you'll regret later -- and make sure it reads as an honest letter that isn't asking for a response. Once you've sent your thoughts, frustrations and explanations, you can feel certain that you've said what you needed to say and move on.

Friendship can wait
No calls. No sightings. No friendship. You need at least three months with absolutely no contact before you can even think about starting a friendship, and it often takes much longer. There's no such thing as "staying friends." You were not friends when you were dating, and if you were friends before, it ended the moment you became intimately involved. If you want to start a friendship now, realize that it will be an entirely new relationship that must be built from the ground up. You'll share a different kind of bond, have different kinds of conversations and play different roles in each other's lives. It may be true that once we love someone, we love them forever, but it cannot be in the same way if you hope to have an honest friendship and an honest chance at moving on.



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Prince Charming: Overrated

Contrary to the fairy tale, this magic man is not all he's cracked up to be!
by Lisa WesemanPublished: 09/14/2006

From Cinderella to Pretty Woman, fairy tales for females are almost always centered around one figure: Prince Charming. Whether he's a knight in shining amour riding a white horse or a millionaire in a tuxedo riding in a stretch limousine, Prince Charming always saves the girl.
As much as you may try to resist the temptation, even modern women sometimes fall into the trap of waiting around to be rescued by the perfect man. But if you take a step back and look at what Prince Charming represents, you may be surprised by how overrated he really is.
Looks are overratedChiseled cheeks, perfect hair and a smile that melts your heart: Prince Charming is the definition of handsome.
There's nothing wrong with a man who's easy on the eyes, but at the end of the day, looks will only carry a man - and a relationship - so far.
As our culture becomes increasingly bent on the idea of the so-called "metrosexual male" - a straight man who follows fashion and pays careful attention to grooming - we have to ask ourselves what's really important. It's nice to see men finally taking care of those bushy unibrows, but are looks really the thing we should be encouraging men - or women - to devote more time, money and energy toward?
Money is overratedThere's a reason Prince Charming rides up on that white horse or in a stretch limo: he's loaded. Most fairy tales date back to a time when a one of the most important factors in marriage was a man's financial means.
While women today don't so openly pursue wealth in a partner, it's still something they consider. Many women judge a man on everything from his level of education and his career to the kind of car he drives and whether he owns a home. Some women even tell their boyfriends not to propose to them until he can afford a large diamond engagement ring.
But when women pursue money in this way, what are they giving up in return?
If you're a woman who chases wealth through a partner, are you merely using yourself as an object that can be sold for the right price?
Chivalry is overratedPrince Charming did more than open doors for his lady - he slayed dragons at her feet. But is chivalry really that important in this day and age?
Most men are genuinely trying to be considerate when they open doors, pay for dinner or drive the car. The problem comes from why men started doing these things in the first place: because they thought women were weaker and needed their help.
Everyone likes to be taken care of every now and then. But before you get your heart set on a chivalrous Prince Charming, carefully consider whether you believe that as a woman you always need to be taken care of by a man.
Be Princess CharmingFrom the time you were a little girl, you heard stories about Prince Charming. Throughout the years, he's shaped your idea of what a man should be. But you spent so much time thinking about that Prince, your probably neglected to even consider yourself.
Now that you're an adult, you still might be secretly waiting for Prince Charming to show up. He's not going to. The truth is, Prince Charming isn't real.
But that doesn't mean you can't still have a magical life. The first step is to stop waiting around for the man of your dreams -- it's time to shift your focus to becoming the woman of your dreams. Think about all the things you hope for in a husband. When the right man comes along, are you prepared to offer those things as a wife? And what if you aren't going to meet your partner for a long time - are you prepared to offer those things for yourself?
Now is the time for you to become your own Princess Charming. Develop your career. Learn to grow your own money. Get into shape. Work on your mental health. Stimulate your mind. Learn a new skill. See the world.
When you finally do meet your soul mate, you'll be able to stand at his level and meet him as a peer. And until then, you'll be living the rich, full life a Princess deserves.

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